10 Things I Need To Stop Feeling Guilty About


Saying 'sorry' is such a British thing to do, right?! Someone bumps into us on the street.. we apologise.. when we don't understand what someone is saying.. we apologise! Sometimes we even apologise for apologising.. but you get the idea! In the same way, there are so many things that we (not just British people either..!) do on a daily basis that we feel unnecessarily guilty for, things that we really shouldn't apologise for, because a lot of the time we need to do these things to give ourselves some down-time and feel human again! I feel like a lot of the time we are forced to feel guilty because these things aren't necessarily helping us to be successful, or helping us to get anything out of life - so I'm here to remind you that you can do these things every once in a while and you really don't have to feel guilty about them! Just like I didn't feel guilty for eating a fair few of those profiteroles...lol! Let me know in the comments if you agree with my list of things you shouldn't have to apologise for and also share your own ideas with me - I'd love to hear some of the things you do that you admit you need to stop feeling guilty about! 

1. NEEDING ALONE TIME// This is something I struggled with a lot last year, I had just admitted to myself that I have anxiety and to be honest I didn't really want to see anyone or do anything for a good couple of months. My friends were still adjusting to this fact and didn't really properly understand what I was going through and the feelings I was having back then - This meant that when they would invite me places and I would decline they would feel let down a lot of the time and they probably felt like I didn't like their company, which wasn't the case at all.. and obviously it would make me feel like crap, I felt guilty for needing this time alone when actually it was exactly what I needed to do! Being a huge introvert I still get this feeling nowadays and I really do need to remind myself every now and again that it's okay to spend time alone sometimes because, even if you're the most outgoing person there is, we all need down-time and time to be alone with our own thoughts every once in a while! Obviously, maybe not spend time away from other humans for too long, because this probably isn't the best for your mental health, but you know - you don't have to feel guilty for spending a little time away! 

2. SLEEPING IN// This is something that has hit me hard the past couple of weeks actually! As I've mentioned in a few posts recently, I've started a new job where I need to wake up at 4:30am 5 days a week, ugh.. the thought just makes me cringe..! This change to my morning routine and the fact that I actually have to get off my sofa and do work, has obviously made me a very tired person recently! And yet, I still decide to wake up at around 9am on my days off. Don't even ask me why.. I'm so tired and yet here I am at 9:30 am on my day off, out of bed and forcing myself to be awake! I guess I just feel guilty sleeping in because I've always been brought up as a child to wake up at a certain time on the weekdays and the weekend, but I really do need to just admit to myself that I'm tired and I need sleep - no matter how long that means I sleep in for! 

3. SPEAKING MY MIND// I've always been the type of person to just keep my mouth shut and I guess I've never really voiced my opinion a lot in my lifetime! To be honest, whenever I do I get all weirdly flustered and turn bright red, but that's another story! But I need to remember that speaking my mind and voicing my own opinion is just part of being a human, we have a right to tell people our thoughts and feelings and it's only healthy to do this! So we don't have to feel guilty when we tell our friend that actually we don't agree with what they're saying... Everyone is entitled to an opinion and a voice so use it - but do remember to use it wisely! 

4. TREATING MYSELF// I talk about the importance of treating yourself and 'me time' a lot on this blog and I really do honestly believe that having a little pamper or treating yourself to that slice of cake is super important for a happy and fulfilling life! To be honest I don't struggle with this one quite so much and I am very good (if not too good!) at treating myself to new things when I want them..oops, haha! But even so, I do need to remember that it's okay to treat myself to a nice bath or to a chocolate bar every now and again and I don't have to feel guilty about it if it's only occasionally! Although, let's be honest I didn't need to be told twice to not feel guilty for eating those profiteroles, haha! 

5. BEING SHY// I've always been shy, I've always been that person who just keeps to themselves and doesn't really go out of her way to talk to people - don't get me wrong obviously I have days where I'm more confident, but most of the time I'm just a big shy mess, haha! I feel like everyone perceives shyness in such a negative way - it makes you appear weak or like you are isolated or don't have friends (which definitely is not the case..) and a lot of the time it can seem like you have to be confident and outgoing to be successful or popular or attractive! This is definitely wrong, in fact - shy people have proven to be more likely to listen and care and are actually more thoughtful and approachable - At the end of the day, if shyness is just part of your personality embrace it and remember you don't have to feel guilty for it!

6. HAVING A 'DAY OFF'// Another thing I need to remember is that I'm allowed a day off where I do nothing but sloth on the sofa all day long! This is something that I've come to realise a lot recently, with my new job I only get 2 days off a week and during those 2 days off I find it really difficult to just sit down and have a lazy afternoon because I feel guilty for leaving the bathroom unclean or for not doing laundry - but I really shouldn't because those things can wait and I really do need to sit down sometimes, haha!

7. HAVING A BAD DAY// Whether it be just general bad day-ness or anything to do with mental health it's okay to just have a bad day! Where you don't have to answer to anyone or anything and you can just sit and listen to some James Bay and feel sorry for yourself! I feel like I am quite good at letting myself have bad days, but it doesn't come without guilt - so I definitely need to work on that! You don't always have to be chirpy and bubbly, so as long as you're not taking that bad mood out on anyone else, you can just sit and be sad for a while.. that way you'll feel ready to face the world the next day! 

8. ASKING FOR HELP // I feel like a lot of people don't know when to ask for help, or sometimes they just don't want to ask for help because of the way it makes them look! But let's face it, we all need support every now and again and it doesn't make us look weak or lesser than anyone else - it just makes us human! So don't suffer alone and be sure to seek help when you need it, you'll feel 10 times better afterwards trust me! 

9. BEING TRUE TO MYSELF // I've spoken a lot about this in the past on my blog, in fact I wrote a whole post on it a while back. But this is definitely something that I still need to figure out and learn from! A lot of the time people don't want to be true to themselves because they have traits that people maybe don't necessarily see as being positive or attractive - for example being shy! (But as I said, shyness isn't all bad!!) But at the end of the day, these traits are what make up who you are so don't feel guilty of them and embrace them because whether or not these people see you in a positive way it's what makes you unique and what makes you you! 

10. WEARING MAKEUP // Natural beauty is a topic that pops up every now and again on social media and in the blogging community, and honestly I can see the argument from both sides! This doesn't mean that I always go out bare faced and just embrace every spot, nor does it mean that I cover every blemish on my face before I leave the house either! Sometimes, when natural beauty comes up in conversation, makeup can often be perceived almost like a sin and can be seen as a way of covering up who we truly are... but honestly makeup makes me happy sometimes and if I want to cover up that huge spot on my nose before I go to town then so be it - makeup makes me comfortable and confident, it doesn't mean that I can't appreciate my own natural beauty too! 

12 comments :

  1. I definitely agree with this! I need to stop feeling guilty for standing up for something I don't want to do. I have my own mind and my own choices and I need to stop apologising for them! :) xxx

    Sarah / Sarah Smiles

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    1. Exactly! :) Everyone deserves a voice and an opinion! x

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  2. I can relate to a lot of the things you've mentioned! I'm someone who needs a lot of alone time & there have definitely been times where I felt guilty for it because like you said as well I didn't want to let my friends down. It's just who I am though & once I accepted that I stopped feeling like I need to apologise for it. You should never feel guilty for being yourself! :) x

    Sara / AboutLittleThiings

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    1. It feels good to know that I'm not the only one who enjoys a lot of alone time - it's easy to feel abnormal especially since a lot of my friends enjoy going out and socialising a lot!! Thanks so much for your lovely comment! :) x

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  3. I loved this post! I can relate to so many of these! Being shy and introverted is something I have had to live with for most of life and I will guilty about it for a lot of time. I know I just need to accept it and move on xx

    Thrifty vintage fashion

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    1. Yeah, at the end of the day it's who we are and we shouldn't feel guilty for just being ourselves! :) x

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  4. I am such a shy person as well and I completely feel you because sometimes it brings me down and makes me feel guilty so much. Its 100% is part of your personality - something that you cannot change and something that you should also be proud of because how boring would the world be if everyone was exactly the same?! xx

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    1. 100% agree with you! :) Thanks for your lovely comment, it definitely put a smile on my face! x

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  5. I love this! I know exactly what you mean with sleep, my parents always made sure we were up reasonably early even on weekends so it wasn't until uni that I began sleeping in but now I feel bad doing it when I stay at home! But sometimes sleep is all you need!

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    1. 100%!! I know exactly what you mean, but you're right - sleep is important! x

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  6. oh my goodness i can relate to EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE! Funnily enough i did a blog post about 'having a bad day' the other week - it's something i'm definitely learning to accept more; it's human nature, but society can so often make us feel we have to be "perfect" all the time... what the hell is that?! Perfectly imperfect, that's my motto :)

    Bumble & Be

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    1. I'm glad you agree!! :) That is so true and I couldn't agree more! x

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