The Truth About Being An Adult


I've been an adult for almost 4 years now (first off, ew! I hate calling myself an adult, since I definitely don't feel like one!) and although it's kind of gone by in a blur we all know it's not easy! As children we can't wait to grow up, we want to move out, become independent and most of all make out own decisions on how we live our lives - we don't want to answer to our parents anymore! But being an adult isn't all fun and games, you realise being able to make the decisions isn't always as good as it sounds and sometimes we all want to be looked after by our parents again! Since moving out 3 years ago I definitely came across a fair few of these adulting struggles that made me change my mind just a smidgen on wanting to be responsible for myself.. okay it's not that bad! But there are definitely times where I wish I was younger again and I could just worry about homework and the little dramas we all used to have about boys, haha! Anyways, for today's post I thought I would share a few of the truths about being an adult, hopefully some of my fellow adults out there can relate to some of these! Let me know if you agree with any and also add your own struggles in the comments below! Also, I've had to type this out twice because stupid blogger deleted it the first time and I've also got a huge case of the Monday's so bare with me!!


CLEANING AND OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES // Once you move out and become responsible for yourself you suddenly realise that there isn't actually a magically fairy that comes along and does all your washing and cleans the bathroom (of course this fairy is often better known as 'Mum' haha.. sorry Mum!) But yeah, the cleaning doesn't mysteriously get done overnight anymore (unfortunately!) and you soon realise that it's now your responsibility and if you don't do it, the cleaning will soon pile up... or you;ll run out of socks. Living with my boyfriend has only made this worse for me (sorry Ethan... you like to make messes and I seem to be the only one that notices them!) Funny thing is, I completely understand why my Mum used to moan at me now for making mess.. to be honest I understand a lot of the reasons why my Mum would moan at me nowadays, haha!

HAVING FRIENDS TAKES EFFORT // Once you finish school and become an independent adult you soon realise that making friends takes real effort! Now that you don't spend 6 hours  days a week with your group of best friends (and, if you're an introvert like me!) it's easy to get into your little cocoon of your home with a blanket and Netflix and just stay in - enjoying your own company! Unless you actually make an effort with your friends and plan dates and catch ups they won't stay your friends for long (unlike school, where you saw each other every day whether you liked it or not!) There's also the effort of making friends in the first place and it's definitely not as easy as it was in school!

SLEEP IS YOUR BESTIE! // We all remember being younger and absolutely hating bedtime, right?! And our parents would always say 'oh! I'd love to be able to go to bed at 8pm!' and we'd never really get it.. like why would anyone WANT to go to bed early?! Well, I get it now. My bed is essentially my best friend and I want to sleep every hour of the day! It doesn't really help that my job means I have to wake up at 5:10am so I basically have an excuse to nap in the afternoon... opps! I'm such an old woman!

GENUINELY GETTING EXCITED OVER 'WEIRD' THINGS // This was definitely one that hit me in the face when I moved house, we had to buy all new essentials and yes, while I did get excited over the decor pumpkins ans the wall art which was pretty normal for me! I was also getting weirdly excited over things like choosing airers and ironing boards, haha! Also, move over chicken nuggets and turkey twizlers I genuine get excited about cooking proper meals now like this year I never thought I would get so excited about casseroles and beef stews, haha.. I'm a true adult now right?!

YOU DON'T CHANGE THAT MUCH! // Another thing I realised about being an adult is that you really don't change as much as you think you will. I remember being 16 and thinking about when I'll be 18, a proper sophisticated adult who does adult things and looks like an adult, but truth is I'm still the same as I was back then! I still have the same thought sand the same silly moments... I'm just better at hiding them at inappropriate times (is that what being an adult is?!) I also remember that I used to look at 20 year olds and think that the looked like proper adults too... I thought they looked way older than me but now that I'm 20 I don't feel like that at all and sometimes, I don't even feel like I look older than some 16 year olds, ahah!


18 comments :

  1. 100% agree with this post! University and moving out makes you realise how hard being an adult can be, but it has its fun moments.
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    1. 100%, we're kind of thrown in at the deep end when we move out! But you're right, it does have it's fun moments too! x

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  2. I can so relate to all this! I've slowly come to realise over the years that maybe adults still have the same brain as I do, just with a bit more experience, if that makes any sense haha! I always thought 20 year olds would be so mature and now I'm almost there I've come to realise it's not quite like that! Great post lovely! x

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    1. That makes total sense! I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks that way, haha! x

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  3. This post made me smile! I'm still in University so I'm still in that stage where I still don't feel like an adult, but I'm kinda half way there. Although I'm excited to move out properly after uni into a PROPER home...I still relate to everything you said! SLEEP. <3

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  4. LOVE this post! Completely agree with all of these!!
    a life of a charlotte
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  5. I'll be 23 in March and I don't consider myself an adult in any sense of the word - other than finally working full time, that's the only adulty bit about me haha! I've not yet moved out of my parents', but for a few months a few years ago I lived with friends temporarily and that was fun but ugh, doing my own food shopping and having to clean all the time was such a pain! I defo wasn't ready for that kind of responsibility ha. I love picking up homeware in the shops though, it's so much fun! I've noticed too that friends take a lot of effort these days. Fab post! xx

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    1. I definitely agree, it is super tough! I'm glad you can relate to the struggles, haha! x

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  6. Sleep is my bestie! I hate adulting - the cleaning bit is the WORST!

    JH | hellojenniferhelen.com

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    1. 100% cleaning is the worst, but it has to be done :( x

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  7. When I was younger I used to take for granted the ease that I was able to hang out with friends 24/7. Now that I'm older I definitely realize relationships of any sort take cultivation and maintenance. Great points!

    xx Heather || stormywheather.com

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    1. Definitely, I feel like we all took it for granted to be honest, it's not easy nowadays! x

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  8. I have fell in love with your blog when reading this post. I will be coming back regularly and reading everyhting I possible can. I'm love your style of writing! xx

    Niamh | https://niamhsprettythoughts.wordpress.com/

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    1. Awh! Thank you so so much, that's lovely! :) x

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  9. Such a relateable post. I feel so bad for not helping my mum around the house more. You never realise how much they do until you move out. I need to get better at making time for friends. Life just seems to get in the way. Totally know what you mean about not looking like an adult. I always use to think that people who were 20 lookdd adult too. But im 22 and i dont feel like i look like an adult. It doesn't help that i have a baby face. It's weird seeing celebrities looking so grown up at our age and thinking that we dont look that grown up. What a great post!

    Sarah's Abode -xx

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    1. Completely, you don't realise how long it takes to clean a bathroom until you move out either, haha! I have a baby face too, don't worry! x

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