Struggles All Introverts Will Understand

I've always known that I was an introvert. I definitely enjoy my own company and I really don't strive off of socialising with others like some people do - I'd much prefer the company of a book or Netflix to be completely honest! It doesn't mean that I don't enjoy spending time with my friends and I really enjoy my time spent with them when we do plan little day trips out, it's just the motivation to make plans and to actually get myself out that I'm lacking! This has been such a big part of my life recently, now that University work and working part time has gotten a lot busier, it's kind of gotten in the way of seeing friends and I've found myself making up excuses to stay in and not see anyone... when, let's be honest - I definitely have time! So today I thought I would write about some of the struggles us introverts face, I hope all my fellow introverts can relate to some of these and that we can all laugh, because they're all silly little things but they're struggles no less! If you want to have a read of some of my other struggles posts you can click here - I've written quite a few now. Also, let me know if you can relate to any of these in the comments below! 

YOU'RE AUTOMATICALLY LABELLED AS 'SHY' // I must admit, I'm also shy so I haven't really dealt with this myself, but I feel like this is such a daily struggle for a lot of introverts! People just seem to automatically assume because you enjoy your own company and you don't need to be around people constantly, you're shy and let's face it... a bit socially awkward - this is not always the case though and these people are probably wrong! There are actually tonnes of introverts out there who are outgoing in any social situation, when this type of introvert is at a party they really enjoy taking to everyone and find it really easy to socialise and mingle (ew.. the thought makes me cringe, haha!) but they do definitely appreciate their own company and do love to spend time alone - definitely not shy though! 

SOCIALISING IS A WORK OUT... // This is probably just me being lazy, but does anyone else feel like they get an actual hangover from having to socialise and go to somewhere like a party where you're forced to mingle?! I don't know what it is, but I find going out on little day trips and going to parties with my friends to be actually exhausting - my friend could come over for a coffee and I'll need a nap afterwards... (Granted, she does talk rather a lot, haha!) But one thing is for sure, the first thing on my mind after a long day spent with friends or with a large group of people is all I want to do is snuggle up under a blanket and just be by myself - I honestly feel wiped out after all that socialising, I definitely wish I was more outgoing and energetic in conversations though. 

PHONE CALLS ARE YOUR IDEA OF HELL // Receiving or making phone calls is basically the worst thing ever for me, haha! I couldn't even tell you the amount of times I've ignored my phone while its ringing, I'm not being rude or mean to the person trying to call me, just the thought of talking on the phone sometimes makes me cringe so much! Calling people I'm close to isn't as daunting because I find it much easier to have a conversation with the people I love, but even the idea of calling someone I don't know terrifies me and makes my heart beat so fast!

'DON'T TALK TO ME, DON'T TALK TO ME!' IS PRACTICALLY YOUR MANTRA // I get that this could probably make me sound like a serious bitch, but trust me I'm not trying to be rude, haha! Whenever I go anywhere alone I am definitely secretly hoping that people don't try and start up a conversation with me - trust me, if anyone does try and have a chat I'll politely reply, but I just hope that this situation never arises! I'm sorry Susan sat behind the till at Tesco, I don't really want to talk about your life, nor do I want to tell you about mine.. just let me go back to the comfort of my house, haha! This is why I love having an extroverted boyfriend who'll talk to anyone, because he does all the talking for me, phew! 

YOUR OWN COMPANY IS THE BEST COMPANY AND THAT'S OKAY! // Do I need to say more?! Us introverts know how much effort and motivation it takes to get yourself out there and actually socialise, so we definitely deserve some time to re-charge every now and again - and it's definitely more than okay to just sit back and enjoy your own company every once in a while! I'm honestly at my happiest when I spend a night in with Ethan, so that's something that I cherish and try to spend a lot of time doing and that's okay!


  1. I could relate to all of these. I hate it when people say I'm just "shy" or "anti-social" they don't understand how physically draining being around people can be for me. Great post lovely!

    Ella xx

  2. Love this post, can relate to everything you've said! Especially the phone calls one, the amount of times I just let my phone ring and ring, I can't stand ringing people I don't know or seeing an unknown number on my phone!

    Tiffany x

  3. I can relate to all of these examples. Like, the other day in uni, I arrived early to class and the cleaning lady started talking to me and well, obviously I replied to everything she said but to me it was so awkward and 5 minutes after that intereaction I was still trying to calm down. And yeah definitely social events or hanging out with people can be extremely exhausting, all you wanna do when you get home is lay down and relax haha

    Anna x |

  4. These are all so true! If I ever have to make a call I always have to go in a room by myself and you'll never catch me answering to a number I don't know!

  5. I don't know if I am an introvert (maybe half-half ;) ), but that phone call thing agrees with me too. :D I better recieve an e-mail. ;)
    And I think when other people start to label you shy you start to act more shy (even if you are not)..

  6. I love this post. I relate to the whole thing!